Freedom Can Be Dangerous – How to Ensure You Don't Get Lost in Your Own Freedom?

Most people seek to feel free in most areas of their lives. They might define freedom in various ways, the most common being: the absence of boundaries, doing whatever I want, or always being authentic. If you remove the words 'boundaries,' 'want,' and 'authentic' from the previous sentences, you're left with a form of compulsion. After all, if you are committed to something even when conditions don't allow it – meaning, committed to being authentic, committed to always doing what you desire, or committed to living without boundaries – you are no longer free. Freedom can be dangerous if you view it as an obligation. Your obligation to be free will not heal your fear of boundaries; on the contrary, it will amplify it and prevent your self-realization. One of the most fundamental life skills on Earth is the ability to operate within a framework, whether you created it or not. Therefore, to create a framework, you need to be part of it. It's easier to start with 'how' things are done and then discover what you 'want' to do throughout life, rather than choosing to know 'what' to do at the expense of the 'how.' If you want to remove your freedom from all danger, pay attention to the feeling of obligation. This feeling of obligation exists within a closed loop. Freedom, joy, love, respect are self-evident values in any society where people do not feel threatened or have the potential to be controlled. If you question these values, everything you try to do is at risk of being taken over. This means you are busy guarding your freedom instead of experiencing it, and thus you easily lose it. Releasing yourself from this closed loop happens in three stages, which you can begin to implement right now:

1. Find a way to be authentic wherever you are – you don't need to change your environment. Your training in this world is to adapt without compromising what you want, to any authentic environment.
2. Release the need for self-proof – you don't need to prove to anyone, and certainly not to yourself, that you are 'enough x.' You don't need to show that you are authentic enough, spiritual enough, knowledgeable enough... Freely express what you know and maintain curiosity to learn what you don't know. Even if you are right, you need to know how to express yourself even in places that feel 'wrong' to you. Never give up on relationships because of an agenda.
3. Release yourself from burdens – if there are triggers or buttons that press on your past pains, it's a sign that you are not free. Internal patterns choose for you based on past frameworks that you don't necessarily want to operate from. If you identify that you 'must' choose something because it seems like the exclusive truth, examine the past frameworks upon which this truth is based, release them, and then proceed to choose anew.

Where do you find your boundaries?