Judgment and Criticism – The Executive Arm and Allies of the Ego System.

Every child is born with self-love. A small baby believes that everything they desire should come to them and knows exactly how to activate the entire adult world around them without words, with a plea that penetrates and transcends every language. Over time, this small baby grows and develops. Around the age of 10-11, they encounter a problem for the first time. They realize they can't solve every problem. While their intellect develops at the fastest rate it will throughout their life, there are desires or resources they won't be able to obtain; it simply won't be enough. At this stage of life, the ego is formed. A system that represents all the times the intellect entered a state of lack. This system explains, in terms of criticism and judgment, and primarily through self-worth, why that child cannot solve the problem. The apparent “ambition” is one of the ego's most prominent traits. It says that if only you were enough of 'x', or if only you could do more of 'y', then next time you'd be able to solve the problem and even get what you wanted. The ego makes things real through repetition. The more an internal voice tells you repeatedly that you are “not enough,” after dozens of such instances, you will begin to believe that you are. This is how the ego recruits criticism and judgment into its ranks. These are two of its internal systems whose role is to explain two perspectives to you:
1. Regarding yourselves – you are not enough 'x' to get 'y'. If only you were more, then you would get exactly what you want. Note – you can identify when your judgment and criticism come from the ego because its discourse is endless. It will constantly find another area where you are not enough, and its criteria lack measurable values to know if you truly met them.
2. Regarding other people – for the ego, anything different from you – in worldview, appearance, behavior, and every other criterion – poses a threat. The use of judgment and criticism helps you distinguish yourselves from other people. It explains “who you are” through “who you are not.”
There are three anchors that can help you separate yourselves from the ego:
1. You don't need to fear what is different from you. You are not your beliefs. When someone thinks differently from you, it's an opportunity to be who you are, without trying to prove through actions or words that you are who you say you are. You can choose when to be generous and when not to be generous, for example, if you hold the image of “the generous one.”
2. You are free – the ego unconsciously forces you to follow criteria that don't truly have measurable value. You can be free to do as you wish, or not. As long as your choice is driven by a demonstration of purpose, meaning you are trying to show that you are who you say you are, the ego is controlling you. Simply be yourselves when you choose, and not to show that you are enough 'x', or sufficiently distinct from each other.
3. Love and fear – the ego is driven by fear. It makes you fear uncertainty, fear that you won't achieve the results you want, and fear everything or everyone different from you. If you want to distinguish yourselves from the ego, look at things through love. Someone different from you is someone in whose hands your soul has placed a quality it wants to have near you, but not within you.

Are you distinguishing yourselves from the ego and freeing yourselves from the cognitive consciousness of lack that it represents?